expectations

What is an expectation ? ... in relationships specially..
it is an implied assumption that someone will do something the way you want it .. its a belief that you will not be dissapointed by the actions or doings of that person. This being an imperfect world, i have realised, that this leads to pain. If you expect something, and it does not happen, then you are dissapointed, and no longer have the same feelings for that person. That person has not done as you expected.

I was told a long time ago that I have high expectations from people and that is going to be a cause of grief going forward. I tried to change and i did. No expectations. No pain. Of course this is a utopian thought. How can you not have any expectations from people. Well you have to balance things out as always. I personally always want to meet everyones expectations from me and at the same time keep none from the others.

This philosophy has helped me a lot with my relationships. Though i always think im good at making and keeping them, i know thats not entirely true.

And true to my words, i am not expecting anyone to agree with me here.

why i love my friends

this was my first weekend without my beautiful wife and daughter who are visiting india, and i know that a weekend without them would be more horrifying than i can imagine. So i spent the weekend with very very close friends in san francisco. Poker, shopping @ haight street, lots of food, wine and smartass thoughts from everyone. On the other hand, the weekend alone at home would have included, tv, some moaning, calling random people that have other plans, more tv and some cleaning. I'm lucky i have these guys around. They make me realise that friends are family. I have great respect for these guys and hope to have them around wherever i go. not just good friends, these good friends .. i fear someday one of us will move and sort of end the party .. i hate that end of the party feeling .. hell .. let me enjoy what we have going on for now.