expectations

What is an expectation ? ... in relationships specially..
it is an implied assumption that someone will do something the way you want it .. its a belief that you will not be dissapointed by the actions or doings of that person. This being an imperfect world, i have realised, that this leads to pain. If you expect something, and it does not happen, then you are dissapointed, and no longer have the same feelings for that person. That person has not done as you expected.

I was told a long time ago that I have high expectations from people and that is going to be a cause of grief going forward. I tried to change and i did. No expectations. No pain. Of course this is a utopian thought. How can you not have any expectations from people. Well you have to balance things out as always. I personally always want to meet everyones expectations from me and at the same time keep none from the others.

This philosophy has helped me a lot with my relationships. Though i always think im good at making and keeping them, i know thats not entirely true.

And true to my words, i am not expecting anyone to agree with me here.